Ever feel like you're just faking it, doubting your abilities, and worrying that one day you'll be exposed as a fraud? That's imposter syndrome, a feeling vlogger Purple Ella dives into in her recent YouTube video. She explores the unique challenges faced by neurodivergent people, especially dealing with doubts about their diagnoses and navigating a world that often misunderstands them.
For those diagnosed later in life, the journey can be tough and there can be a pervading struggle with diagnosis doubt. Media portrayals of neurodivergence often don’t help – they miss the mark, and rely on stereotypes (think maths genius or bookish nerd) making it even harder to feel validated.
The video highlights how doubts, even from the medical community, can fuel imposter syndrome. Comments like "you don't look autistic" or dismissing ADHD as made up add to the struggle.
Purple Ella also opens up about the complexity of having multiple diagnoses, like autism and ADHD. Feeling like you don't fully belong to either community, she reflects, can be isolating. This is why speaking with others in the same boat, either online communities or a coach can play a crucial role in finding representation and validation from others who get it.
Need some strategies for overcoming neurodiversity imposter syndrome? Here’s some of the approaches I discuss with my clients:
Take the time to learn more about your specific neurodivergent condition. Understanding the nuances and variations within the neurodivergent spectrum can help you embrace your unique identity and recognise that there's no one-size-fits-all definition.
Embrace your true self. Forget trying to be perfect; it's okay to be imperfectly you. Do things your way, and bring your uniqueness to the table. And be kind to yourself. Understand that everyone, neurodivergent or not, makes mistakes and faces challenges. Embrace a mindset of self-compassion, treating yourself with the same understanding and support you would offer a friend.
Seek out online or local communities where individuals share similar neurodivergent experiences. Being part of a supportive group can provide validation, understanding, and a sense of belonging, reducing feelings of isolation. Further, consider opening up about your experiences with trusted friends, family, or with a neurodiversity coach. Sharing your journey not only helps you process your thoughts and emotions but also raises awareness and promotes understanding among those close to you.
It’s also important to recognise that any feelings of inadequacy aren't facts. Collect positive feedback and identify your own achievement to remind yourself of your worth. Acknowledge and celebrate your achievements, no matter how small they may seem. Recognising your successes, no matter how incremental, can boost self-esteem and counteract the tendency to focus on perceived failures the things you might struggle with. I encourage my clients to keep a ‘pride file’- it’s simple but powerful.
Shift the focus from external validation to personal growth. Engage in activities that bring you joy, develop your skills, and contribute to your well-being. As you invest in your personal growth, you'll naturally build confidence in your abilities.
How do you feel about affirmations? Give them a go – again, a powerful tool, which, when based on your strengths can challenge negative thoughts and re-write the script in your head. Over time, this can really shift your mindset. I use an app called ‘ThinkUp’ where you can record your own affirmations against calming music and play them on repeat.
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Finally, understand that accepting your neurodivergent identity takes time.
Living with imposter syndrome in neurodivergent communities is a real challenge, but Purple Ella offers a message of hope. By sharing personal experiences and down-to-earth strategies, she encourages others to be themselves, challenge self-doubt, and realise their worth. Overcoming imposter syndrome is a journey, but with commitment and time, it's absolutely possible.
If you’d like guidance from a professional specialising in neurodivergent conditions. Your Neurodiversity Coach can work with you develop tailored strategies and coping mechanisms. Let’s hop on a 15 minute Chemistry and Questions call where I can explain my approach and give you guidance. Book here.
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